You Just Don't Understand
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You Just Don't Understand
Deborah Tannen
8 people recommended it in 3 threads, 2018–2023.
What people on Hacker News said
If women speak and hear a language of connection and intimacy, while men speak and hear a language of status and independence, then communication between men and women can be like cross-cultural communication, prey to a clash of conversational styles.
Instead of different dialects, it has been said they speak different genderlects.
The author discusses that often when conflict in communication arises between men/women, it resembles the same tensions in cross-cultural communication.
One example was, when someone's complaining about a problem, a competitive-oriented mindset typically tries suggest a solution, whereas a related-orient mindset typically shows empathy.
Where it comes up
- Ask HN: What are the most eye-opening textbooks you have ever read? 2023 · 6 recommendations
- Richard Bartle releases his classic “Designing Virtual Worlds” book for free 2021 · 1 recommendation
- Ask HN: What are your favorite non-fiction books of all time? 2018 · 1 recommendation